Yes, you read that right. This is a post for everyone who has ever been in a relationship that has ended. This is for each one of us who have had the realization that out with the old, in with the new is something to accept. This is mostly for the girls who still feel a sting in their hearts when they find out that there is a new girl in their old boyfriend's life. Those are the key words: new and old. There are an abundance of posts out there about how you get your ex back, how to get over them, or even to help you move on. But the posts that bother me the most are the letters to that "new girl" in their life. I think all of us twenty-somethings know what I'm talking about. These are the posts to the girls who have replaced us, the girls that have found a new home in their arms and the girls that get to make all those new memories with the boy who broke your heart. They often refer to you as "the other girl." Me? The other girl? Good one!
Listen and listen closely: do not for a minute longer EVER think that you have been replaced. Take that thought and stomp all over it. Throw that thought in with a pile of all the gifts or old t-shirts you have been hiding in the corner of your closet and have a bonfire. Invite your friends, maybe even make it a party. Turn that hideous thought around and pay attention to the people you have in your life at this exact moment instead. Make it a point to realize that the word replaced is no longer a word you will know in your dictionary. You are irreplaceable; you are worthy of a love so much greater than a simple boy could ever provide.
Don't look back. Don't for a minute longer give Voldemort any more credit. He doesn't deserve any. Stop spending your precious time wasting thoughts and emotions on someone who didn't even think twice about you when you parted ways. Look to the now. Think of all the things that you have accomplished since they have been out of your life. Think of all the dates you have been on, people you have gotten to know, things you have gotten to do and person you have gotten to become. Realize that those are the things that matter.
Notice that your heart may be stinging when you see they have someone in their life. The posts we see say that you may be jealous of the new person in your exes life. Do not believe these lies. Instead, know that your heart may ache a tiny bit because you really did give it your all and it didn't workout. You are actually okay with the fact that it didn't work. You are just noticing that more time has passed by and you are both moving on. Remember how it felt when you first broke up? How hurt you were, how hard it was? See how this time around, how you have moved on to better people, grown stronger, that finding out some silly information like this really didn't affect you like it has in the past? That is your proof right there that you aren't replaced or jealous. You may honestly be relieved.
This last point is the greatest of them all so hopefully I have not lost your attention just yet. If your relationship was not out of pure love and with God at the center, be thankful that it did not work out between the two of you. God totally had your back. He saw that you were in a situation that was not meant for you. He took care of you to get you out of a toxic relationship and saved you from even worse situations. There is actually someone pinpointed in this world specifically for you. They will treat you exactly the way you are supposed to. One day you will realize that it didn't workout with anyone else because they were the reason to begin with. This person is going to accept you, understand you and have the same beliefs as you. Instead of wasting your thoughts on what could have been with a so so guy, spend your time investing in the plans that are for your life. It will dramatically change your perspective and your life.
Don't look back. Don't for a minute longer give Voldemort any more credit. He doesn't deserve any. Stop spending your precious time wasting thoughts and emotions on someone who didn't even think twice about you when you parted ways. Look to the now. Think of all the things that you have accomplished since they have been out of your life. Think of all the dates you have been on, people you have gotten to know, things you have gotten to do and person you have gotten to become. Realize that those are the things that matter.
Notice that your heart may be stinging when you see they have someone in their life. The posts we see say that you may be jealous of the new person in your exes life. Do not believe these lies. Instead, know that your heart may ache a tiny bit because you really did give it your all and it didn't workout. You are actually okay with the fact that it didn't work. You are just noticing that more time has passed by and you are both moving on. Remember how it felt when you first broke up? How hurt you were, how hard it was? See how this time around, how you have moved on to better people, grown stronger, that finding out some silly information like this really didn't affect you like it has in the past? That is your proof right there that you aren't replaced or jealous. You may honestly be relieved.
This last point is the greatest of them all so hopefully I have not lost your attention just yet. If your relationship was not out of pure love and with God at the center, be thankful that it did not work out between the two of you. God totally had your back. He saw that you were in a situation that was not meant for you. He took care of you to get you out of a toxic relationship and saved you from even worse situations. There is actually someone pinpointed in this world specifically for you. They will treat you exactly the way you are supposed to. One day you will realize that it didn't workout with anyone else because they were the reason to begin with. This person is going to accept you, understand you and have the same beliefs as you. Instead of wasting your thoughts on what could have been with a so so guy, spend your time investing in the plans that are for your life. It will dramatically change your perspective and your life.